Our Roomi tribe has come across some really raunchy roommate stories and some difficult relationship altering questions (like your crazy love for your roommate). We have a pulse on your real life troubles and we’re here to play our part (call us agony aunts or your fairy god mother) in helping you with your troubles. Should you hook up with your roommate? Is having a “roommate with benefits” a good idea? Well, to answer these questions, let’s look at some stories/questions we crossed paths with on the internet:
It’s quite normal to be attracted to your roommate; it’s pretty much like crushing on your friend or bestie. The feeling is exciting, dopamine ridden and nerve-wracking with moments of butterflies and daydreaming. However, as exhilarating as this feeling may be, don’t let it cloud your judgment as your ‘perfect love story’ could take a complicated twist. Firstly, a big hug from team Roomi if you’re in love with your roommate. We will try our best to help you make the right decision.
I’m in love with my roommate, should we hook up?
Firstly, ask yourself, “Is this lust or love?” Because the outcome of this situation will be very different depending on what you’re feeling. Make sure you spend some time evaluating your feelings for your roommate. Does it look like you’re only attracted to them because of their looks and physique? Do you only want a roommate with benefits because you have nothing better to do? Or are you falling for your roommate because you love their personality, their kindness, the way you two are inseparable and enjoy spending time together? If you only want to hook up with your roommate because you’re bored, you better look for other means of entertainment.
Roommate vs. Roommate with benefits
If it’s lust or feels purely physical, try to reconsider the whole situation.
Because the cons of a roommate with benefits outweigh the pros. For instance, can you imagine sharing your apartment and doing daily chores with someone you’ve had a one night stand with?
At some point, one of you will undoubtedly break into awkwardness and frustration. And consequently, one of you will be forced to move. But the worst-case scenario is watching an agreed one night stand transform into unrequited love with notes of jealousy and hurt of rejection. Because falling in love with your roommate who doesn’t feel the same is the worst! So, think hard, because having a roommate with benefits isn’t always fun.
Roommate vs. live-in couple
I am in love with my roommate?!
If it feels like love – take it reallllly slow. Don’t hook up with your roommate right away. If you’ve only known them for a few months, try to spend some time understanding and connecting with them on a deeper level before you profess your love for them. Don’t make it awkward, but try to have a heart to heart like a friend. Above all, respect their decision no matter what their answer may be and give them some time. But if it’s still awkward, stay with your other friends for a bit to let things blow over.
The same applies to a roommate you’ve known for a while. So, here are some dos and don’ts to consider before you dive in:
- Talk to your friends to seek help & support.
- Respect your roommate’s decision.
- Have a contingency plan – stay in with friends or family if things get awkward.
- Know that there is a 50% chance of this not working out.
- Force your decision on your roommate.
- Make them feel bad about their decision.
- Get intimate instantly – try getting to know each other first.
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